What are good ways to turn on my girlfriend?
Not all of the following is realistic for EVERY situation, but you’ll get the general idea….
Step 1: Setting the Mood: (not always a MUST)
Depending on what she personally likes. The biggest difference about women and men are that women need to have there mind stimulated in order for them to get in the mood or turned on. If you don’t have that, then it will make things much tougher.
Stimulate senses…(foods, smells, music…) and use that to set the mood. Make her a special dinner at home or pick dinner up and make her feel like the center of the evening! The important part is to surprise her by showing you were paying attention to some historic detail and that you know something about her that she did not know you knew. Women LOVE it when men pay attention to details. It scores huge points (with me at least)
Step 2: Create a sense of “build up”
If you are with her that day tell her how pretty she looks, how good she smells ( I LOVE this compliment) or something slightly more provocative like, wow, you look so hot in that outfit, or.. those jeans look amazing on your ass. Just make sure you don’t say this stuff in a slimy way. This will get her thinking and make her feel good, like you’re paying attention to her.
Stuff like kissing, Back rubs…touching softly, gentle touches with your fingertips everywhere, teasing.. but not sex. start slow.. hands in her hair and on the neck with lots of soft kisses planted around… Make sure you mix it up a bit though, don’t just go straight for the sure fire zones (if you get my meaning).. teasing is a good thing, like kissing her stomach then gradually getting closer to her area, teasing her, making her THINK you’re going for it, and then not actually doing it, and moving on to something else. Guarantee she will be practically begging for it! I personally love it when I’m teased!! It makes me want it sooo bad! Take your time, and build anticipation, focus on her. This is the hardest part, because usually men just want to get to business, but women take longer then men to build up. On average women take 20 minutes of foreplay to get completely turned on and in the mood!! Keep that in mind!
Step 3: Go Crazy:
If you did step 1 and step 2 right, and took your time to “prime” her… you’re set for success! She should be in the mood and you know that you are!
How To Get Your Wife or Girlfriend To Want More Sex ‘
Here’s some interesting facts I’ve gathered from By: MR. L. RX ….
why is it if women are more sexual then men that men are the ones who are usually complaining about not getting enough sex? The answer lies in two differences between men and women.
1) Women don’t get physically turned on as easily as men. And conversely women get turned off more easily then men. So if I guy is not doing or saying the right things to his girl, she won’t get turned on, and in fact might get turned off.
2) Combine that with the fact that women have one ability that men don’t have and you will start to get a better understanding of the situation — Even though women are more sexual and enjoy sex more deeply than men are capable of, women are also capable of going without sex for longer periods of time. Women are not as sexually “needy” as men.
Let’s put it another way - Sex is first and foremost a “quality” thing for women.
Look at some of the women’s complaint’s in polls:
90% of women reported that they wished their partner kissed them more or with more passion.
65% of women felt their partner did not have a good kissing technique.
So you see men are more into quantity and women are more into quality.
But, here is what you should know, if you give a women the “quality” of sexual relations that she is desiring then she will want the quantity. And when you really turn your woman on, and she is in the quality and quantity mode. Most women will have most men on the mat screaming “No Mas” in a short period of time.
So if your women is not having sex with you as frequently as you’d like, then you can safely assume that you are not doing something right in the “quality” department. You are either turning her off or not turning her on – in any case you are doing something wrong.
What mistakes do guys make in regards to turning women on? Here are the four most common mistakes that I find men making with respect to turning women on.
1) No Romance – Now I’ve talked about this one extensively in my other writings. So let me just put it simply here. You can’t stop romancing a girl after you get her to be your girlfriend or wife. Whatever you did to get the girl, you have to keep doing it, do it more extensively, find new ways of doing it, etc. – as long as you want to keep creating a relationship with this person, you have to keep creating romance with them.
2) Boring Sexual Routine – Sometimes people fall into a sexual routine that is fun a first put becomes boring when done day after day, night after night. Try some new things, vary the routine. It will help keep things fresh and interesting between the two of you. Talk about your likes and desires and new things you would like to try. Talk about your fantasies. Be willing to do things she would like to do in exchange for trying things you would like to do. If you run out of ideas, we have a free mini-courses on our website, “How To Be a Great Lover” and other free materials to help you out with ideas.
3) Not understanding a women’s body – a lot of guys, especially the younger ones, don’t understand a women’s body. Women need more preparatory (before actual sex) stimulation than men. Men only have to think about it and seem to be ready to do the deed. Women need to think about it and think about it and think about it to become interested and turned on.
Extensive foreplay is a necessity for women to get physically ready and mentally ready to enjoy and get into sex. Talking, having a romantic dinner, holding hands, kissing for hours (like you did on your first dates ) all prepares a women’s body for sex and turns her on. Never, never, never try to have intercourse with a women until she is turned on. Keep kissing, keep touching, but never have intercourse until she is totally turned on.
4) Not taking a women to multiple orgasms. –Practically any women is capable of multiple orgasms. Many think they aren’t so they don’t try and many aren’t turned on enough or are a little turned off by their lover so that prevents them from having multiple orgasms.
The reality though is practically all women can have multiple orgasms. This is a subject that books are written on and if you don’t know how to make a women orgasm than I suggest you get one and learn how to make a women orgasm.
You need to learn to observe your partner’s body. Learn and understand how it works. Some men are even unsure if a women is even having an orgasm.
If you are observant you will start to observe and know when she is having an orgasm. Sometimes you can feel the orgasm tighten around you as you are having sex, other times you can feel the women’s whole body tighten as she begins to orgasm, sometimes there is quiver or a vibration from her as she begins to orgasm, other times she begins to get vocal as she orgasms, or the opposite, she becomes silent as she begins to orgasm. Each women is uniquely different from my experiences, but any women can be figured out if you just become observant.
For some women multiple orgasms are achieved outside of intercourse. My last girlfriend liked to have the first orgasm by finger or hand, the second by mouth, and the third and subsequent orgasms by intercourse.
For some women, orgasms are always achieved outside of intercourse. Sometimes two bodies just don’t fit together the right way to naturally create an orgasm for the women. Be willing to give your partner an orgasm each time you have sex, any way you can – by finger or hand, by mouth, or by machine if you have to.
Please your partner. Do whatever it takes. Always think of her and her pleasure first.
As a rule I always give my partner her orgasm or orgasms first before I orgasm as it is much harder (both physically and mentally) to give your partner an orgasm when you are flaccid.
In conclusion, if you learn to:
1) NOT do the things that turn women off, and 2) do the things that turn women on, you will probably get more sex out of your women than you can handle. Then I will have to answer your questions when you write to me like this:
“My girl and I really have fantastic sex, and I really love her, but please, she is wearing me out, I can’t keep up with her demands for sex. What do I do to slow her down, without offending her?”
Mr L.Rx gives advice to men on how to meet, date, and relate to women. He is also available for private consultation and coaching. Additional information on this topic is at http://www.DatingToRelating.com
