What’s been really going on.
Okay, so this blog comes from my heart 100%. I have tried not to get “too deep” into my personal life on the net.. but it’s time for some explanations.
A lot of you have been asking why my site is lacking video updates lately, well I’m still doing an average of 3 updates a week, but I haven’t done a “Sandee’s Girls” series in over a year and half (almost 2 years) like I used to. The main reason to this (without pointing any fingers) is my divorce settlement.
Since May 2007 I have been paying out 7k a month from what my site makes as part of my divorce settlement. BEFORE I was divorced, those funds were able to be applied to my site, and more productions like the “Sandee’s Girls” series, for example. So yes, my site has suffered this year without those updates my loyal fans have been used to seeing and have grown to expect from me.
There’s been some tug-o-war going on over this settlement amount and things really haven’t been able to be resolved amicably up to this point.
Needless to say, the other party is claiming I’m in breach of the settlement and is asking for $120,000.00 to be awarded to him in one lump sum RIGHT NOW. I obviously have my side of the story too, and without going into too much needless detail, I don’t agree to what they are claiming.
So, the judge put a temporary hold on 100% of my website income the last couple of months till he can hear both sides of what’s going on. Needless to say, it’s been QUITE the adjustment for me to live. It’s absolutely put me in a negative state of being. (although I’m trying to stay positive mentally)
I still ask myself “How can this be happening?” I live a happy life, I’m a positive person, I have moved on… I just want to be free of this and my past… but yet I’m still yanked down by all of this. WOW, it’s a lot to handle.. but I have learned so much about TRUE core value and even more about the Egocentric mind and letting go of the materialistic things that once mattered in my life. Without this experience I think I’d be stuck in that egocentric way of being. Which isn’t really me and who I am. Those things aren’t really what make me happy, or make me who I am. At the very least, I can honestly say there has been a significant positive change (in me) because of this.
Back to the situation at hand… So the last couple months I haven’t had my normal income coming in, and therefore I haven’t been able to give my website the attention it deserves. I have done my best with what I currently have. Please be patient with my members area, as things will be getting better soon.
I have been trying to negotiate some sort of deal, and nobody seems to be responding. Therefore, I have to rely on (and hope) that when I have my trial on the 16th of this month, there will be some order given to clear this mess up. All I’m hoping for, is what’s truly fair to both parties. That’s it. I just want this out of my life and settled. It’s been almost 2 years now and I’m tired, mentally and physically and it’s effecting my business as well.
So, please bare with me and my site. Like I said, the updates are at an average of 3 times a week… but those video features you guys love so much will be back as soon as things are put in order. Thanks for understanding!
Xoxo, Sandee
10:06 am
sandee it takes a lot of courage to speak of things like this, i wish you all the best and that everything goes back to normal, asap.
Your true loyal fans will stay next to you at this difficult moment, and thanks for explaining.
xoxox Pink
10:51 am
I’m with you my sweet Sandee. Good chance!
11:38 am
Sandee…thanks for the explanation…I had kinda gotten little hints here and there about the situation..so I had an idea about what was goin’ on…and your example above is another reason I plan on bein’ SINGLE for a LONG time..
Unreal!!…
I am one of those “True Loyal Fans” ….so I’m not goin’ anywhere….again..all my Luck goes with ya on the 16th and I hope we can see an end to all of this soon…
2:21 pm
Sweetheart i’m sorry to hear that this divorce situation is finacially disabling you. No doubt in my mind that it is also very emotionally draining. You are an amazing person though, you always have been! So we all need you just to stay our sweet Sandee Westgate & We’ll be happy 
Video updates will come with time – I don’t really need them though lol but i’m not a member so I have a different point of view. You are beautiful, intelligent, and kind hearted. Thing’s will come to you! I will pray for you and for your divorce to get settled gracefully on your behalf.
3:40 pm
I’m sorry to hear about the divorce drama. I’m sure all you want to do is just move on and not have to deal with that crap anymore! Hopefully something good happens at your trial
I have to ask though- where do you shop at?! You have the cutest clothes, I love all of your tops!
5:27 pm
Good things happen to good people. You will come out of this the better. Stay strong. You have a lot of people on here who care about you.
6:32 pm
ugh, I can only imagine how hard this must be for you. I know u have mentioned little things here and there, but this is awful. I hope things finally get resolved for you on the 16th. You seem like a very sweet, genuine person- u have tons of loyal fans, and also sounds like a loving family and a great man by your side- try to keep your head held high- we are all here with you
6:56 pm
Wow 
I am sorry you have had to go thru all of this and it speaks volumes about the type of person you are to come forth and tell everyone about what you have gone through. You have gone to hell and back, it seems, and still managed to stay positive and have a good outlook on your life. That takes a special type of person and you should be commended for your effort.
7:30 am
It’s sad you and your ex couldn’t work this out with good will. Only the lawyers thrive on this BS. At least, you found insight about the true value of things, and that knowledge will make you happier and wiser going forward. Don’t worry, I still have my mojo working for you. 
-xOOx, Dog
3:56 pm
That sucks since i assume you did all the work,but you’ve done such a terrific job with the site through the years.I’m not going anywhere.
XOXO
9:54 pm
I know your ex and all I have to say is the dude is crazy! $120,000 Dollars!! Screw him! What, does he need to put another lift kit on his Hummer? Better yet, I’m sure he just needs the money to afford to pay for the gas. Man, this is total bull. I really hope you go to court and show them everything that he has done against you.
6:01 pm
Sandee Im really sorry about what happened and I hope it all works out for the best…but I am really surprised about what kind of guy your ex is. That is very sad that he is ripping money off you (assuming you did all the work on the site). I would never do something like that if it happened to me, I would let her keep the money cause I know its hard enough as it is. Wow I’m really surprised at the kind of people out there. Anyway hope you win! If not call me up I’ll settle it for you.
8:28 pm
hey girl…im so sorry about what your ex is doing to you. absolutely unreal. i knew bits and pieces about the situation but thanks for giving a little bit more explanation. just stay strong and good things will come. they say…things happen for a reason but whether you believe it or not is up to you. i have been a fan of yours for many years and will continue to be. you are such a sweetheart and you dont deserve this at all. keep your head up..=]
6:25 pm
Hi babe, it’s his loss and he obviously knows it. Once you put it behind you you’ll see things in a whole different light. Stay strong and positive. When I think I am going through a bad patch, I remind myself how lucky I am. That I am living in a free country and I have people around me who love me. I compare my life to those in Iraq, Afghanistan and Zimbabwe and it puts things in a whole new perspective…my life is pretty darn good. Here are a couple of links: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/When_Bad_Things_Happen_to_Good_People and http://www.amazon.com/When-Things-Happen-Good-People/dp/0380603926
hugs and kisses, Blondie x
10:00 pm
“Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.” –Buddha
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10:05 am
Best of luck… You have my support. I look forward to a better and free SW!